Saturday, June 2, 2012

Authenticity and Flexibility and Communication

I did a fun Podcast interview today with a friend and I talked about Choices, Paths, Flexibility and Authenticity.

What Path are You on ??? In life it alway comes down to choices...

What are You choosing to have in Your life ??? What people, places, things are You creating in Your life and how are they showing up for You ???

One of the biggest stumbling blocks to staying on Your path is being willing to be Authentic and Flexible. How often are You wearing a mask when You are in Public ???

Think of this... How do you expect people to be authentic with You, if You aren't the REAL You in any given situation. You have to be willing to truly be You at all times, it doesn't matter if You are on Stage giving a presentation or at home with Your loved one...

In life You will find if You are Authentically You, Strong and grounded and are willing to go with the flow, remain open minded and not fixed minded, and don't take things personally,You would have a lot less stress... And things would be manifesting in a much bigger and quicker way...

How often are You willing to ebb and flow with situations, instead of having a fixed point of View ???

Think of this.. A tree has a STRONG trunk yet when storms blow their branches-limbs go with the flow of the wind, if they didn't, we wouldn't have any trees because every time we had a storm the trees would snap and fall over...

People are not mind readers, You have to be willing to communicate anything and everything, if You don't share Your ideas, thoughts, feelings You will find that the whole creative process gets shut down and clogged up. In not expressing what You are feeling You are feeding a silent volcano that will eventually erupt.

Realize You aren't going to be able to Please everybody and the sooner You stop attempting to do so and remain Your authentic self, and Learn to Do it, Delegate it or Delete it, life will be full of unnecessary drama and that is a lot of wasted energy...

Get real with Yourself and others... Be willing to put Yourself out there... Stretch Yourself... Explore putting on a new habit, idea, inspiration and see how it feels... Open Your mind to new possibilites... Dream... Write... Become... Do...

The Muses of Carly Alyssa Thorne Copyright © 6/2012

Sunday, May 20, 2012

I Choose Love, What do You Choose ???




Everyday in life we have choices...  
Example: We can be driving and somebody cuts us off, and in that very moment we can choose to get pissed off and let it ruin our day or let it go and move on with our day.   
I finally got clear that when I am driving I like to either have some audio book on where I am engaged in listening and learning something or to listen to music that I Love and I just start singing my heart out...  That way no matter what happens when I am driving, I already am in a good state of happiness and can shift right back into that space if something unpleasant does happen when I am driving...  
At the end of the day Life is Precious and can be gone in a blink of a second... I used to work at World Trade Center Tower 2 and missed the planes by ONE hour, because a client of mine cancelled our appointment the night before. Normally, I still would have gone in early except that one day I decided oh heck, why not sleep in an extra 30 minutes...  I used to commute from the NJ side to the NY side 4 days a week for work so that extra sleep was something that was much appreciated as those 4 days were 12 hour days.  
In my opnion life is too short to get pissed off at things you sometimes don't have control over.  I attempt to live my Life from a space of Heart centered LOVE as much as possible...  
What do YOU Choose ??? 


Thank You ALL for being a Part of the World's Co-Creation, 
Team work is what makes the Dreams Work... 
Enjoy the Journey... 
The Muses of Carly Alyssa Thorne

Tuesday, May 15, 2012

The Internet, Sharing, Family, Social Media and... Authenticity

These are truly interesting times in the Social Media World...


Do You trust yourself and others ???
Are You willing to meet people from across the world you 
have never met ???
Are You using Social Media authentically ???
Do You respond yourself or use automation ???

Is Social Media just a numbers game to You ???
Do You say one thing on the internet and then in your private world do another ???
Are You really where you say you are ???
What type of Social Media person are You- Introvert or Extrovert ???



To me the World is my family, and I have met some AMAZING people from around the world on the internet.  I will share a story of how amazing... I just relocated back to CA. from the Big Island of Hawaii where I lived for 3 yrs..


While I lived in Hawaii I met an amazing person whom I became good friends with over the internet, we talked almost everyday, yet we never had physically met, well one day on a business trip where I was supposed to stay feel thru, and YES, I could have stayed at a hotel, yet as I sat on a chair after I got my luggage with the news of my stay with friends having fallen thru and got really quiet, and
all of a sudden I had this inner voice say call "_______".  


I called this person and they were like absolutely, and it was the most amazing, fun, in depth conversations ever...  Now mind you, his friends and my friends were telling each of us are you YOU NUTS this person could be crazy,dangerous etc...  All you have done is talk on the phone... 


My point is ONE must use their intuition, FEEL from their HEART not your belly where the butterflies of fear live... I have traveled across the country to meet people I have never met in person- males and females... One must take risks in live... Be daring, bold to expand, learn and grow...  


I am truly happy I am for the most part a fearless person, not I am not saying I don't have certain things that I don't like or am afraid of like "SNAKES" LOL... Just saying I don't live from a place of fear in my daily live... and I am sooo GRATEFUL for that...  


The funny thing is, on the phone and in person people tell me WOW... You are one of the most high energy, positive, passionate person I have met,  and would have to agree that when I am on stage, performing, speaking, in front of the camera or live I am quiet the extrovert.... Yet once I am settled in I am very much the introvert, quiet homebody... Hm... 


I have to say that in today's world of Social Media, I think it has truly helped those that are primarily introverts reach out and connect with others.  I also think it has helped the disabled population and those who can't get out,  have interaction and develop a circle of friends and build a support system.


On the other hand, we have people that have become so attached to Social Media they do nothing except surf on the computer and it consumes their life,  and they become shut ins...
So at what point does Social Media become a problem ???


And... to what degree are you being honest when you are socializing in the Social Media world.  I have found some of Social Media to leave a BAD TASTE in my mouth because Social Media has become a numbers game, a score and some folks are NOT being authentic and honest.  


Example: Foursquare: It is meant to share where You are, what you do, and tips for others, instead I have seen people just to raise their scores checking into places they aren't even at.... 


Empire Avenue: People clicking on missions and not doing the missions, just collecting the Eaves...


WHAT the heck is that all about... Come on people...
Are you that desperate to be the leader on a board and what does that say about you ?  


And... then of course we have all of the computer programs to do the work for us, auto responders etc... again which I can understand if You are a large company or famous... Yet my take on that is if you have a large company or are famous PAY a Virtual assistant with a POSITIVE caring, amazing energy can do attitude to handle it for you, so there is still a HUMAN element... Ok another pet peeve, Please CREATE Your OWN replies, in Your OWN words, so that it reflects YOU and not the assistant's words or style...  GEEZ... We are human beings after all that like real HUMAN caring and interaction...


Solution: one thing that I do is I have created all of these replies and action steps and have them in my email draft and a doc on my desktop so my assistant can just cut and paste my replies and I also have her leave me the DIRECT emails for me.  And... I have a list of people the VA's know to leave for me, I communicate directly with my inner circle people...  Why is it called SOCIAL MEDIA if we aren't willing to interact or socialize with others and truly show we actually care...


Ok the last thing that really drives me insane about the tech world...
How many of You are silently cursing in your head when you call a number and you get these LONG messages with Please select option 1,,2, 3 etc... or a computer voice saying "how may I assist you" ? And then the voice says, Sorry I didn't get that, did you say this... PLEASE that is such a WASTE of time... I would much rather have a live voice who knows the answers or where to direct me then wasting my time on a phone with a computer when half the time I am still going to have to speak to a live person anyway and I just wasted 10 minutes navigating the options and sorry I didn't understand that, let me connect you to an operator... LOL...  Yes, there is the short cut hit "OOO" for operator a ton of times LOL... and eventually after a few repeated "OOO's" you finally get connected.


So what was the POINT in writing this Blog... 
The point was to bring to everyone's awareness, are they truly being authentic in the game of Social Media, are they truly creating Collaborations, sharing, and team work, or are they strictly in it for a higher klout score and automation...   


Please leave Comments on what your feelings are about Social Media, Automation, and the Numbers game...  


Also, if You have some unique tips and tools on how to solve some of these issues, share them...


Thank You all for being a part of the World's Co-Creating...  Team work is what makes the dreams work...


The Muses of Carly Alyssa Thorne  Another midnight production....   © All right reserved 2012



Wednesday, April 11, 2012

The Story Of Carly Alyssa Thorne From SOS to CAT... The FULL Version


Carly Alyssa Thorne - 

The Journey Called My Life of SOS... to CAT.. 

THIS IS THE Beginning the whole Story behind
the Journey from 200 lbs to 125...
Enjoy the Journey...


Yes, this is LONG...  AND... If You Choose to take the
Journey with me, I Promise YOU, it will OPEN Your Eyes...

You will GET the Reason Why I am all About
TRANSFORMATIONS of the Mind, Body, and Spirit...


I will not be mentioning any full names or places to honor 
peoples Privacy.

I am THANKFUL AND GRATEFUL to the people that came to my side and helped 
me to find the Light in my time of need and much darkness...

This full bio is here to give you a a sense of who I am and why I CAN HELP YOU... 
I feel, it is important to share one's story ONLY from the perspective that, 
IF: I CAN DO IT, SO CAN YOU... 
NOT, for your pity, not to stay in the past, or dwell on it. 
I am Extremely Grateful for my Past, it has made me into the Strong, 
Compassionate,Healthy, Giving, Person I am today...

I have CHOOSEN to share my story to EMPOWER YOU, to 
BE THE BEST YOU EVER... and with the HOPE... That  YOU will 
ALWAYS CHOOSE YOU... CHOOSE LIFE... 

WHO I AM NOW:

I have been told by many Bosses, Friends, and More that I am:
       ***A cross between an amazing Old Soul Mind*** 
***An Angel Caretaker Heart***
***An old fashioned housewife with Zen*** 
***A Spirit with Spit and fire, minus the Scorpion Sting...
***Add a heaping dose of LOVE...
***A bit bull when I need to be, to get things done... 
***A Butterfly that is always Transforming... and ever evolving...


SKILL SET WISE: 

I have spent the last 25 years divided into SIX, 
so to Speak and 
have always 
been one 
to have MULTIPLE balls juggling in the Air 
with 
Grace, Ease, and Joy, 
I think it is the PRODUCER Energy in Me...

Thankfully I have always LOVED 
the Concept of Co-Creation and 
working with others, and TEAMWORK...


BUSINESS WOMAN:
***Consultant and Management
***Production Event Coordinator and Manager
***HR: Hiring, Firing, and Recruiting for Corporate.

INTUITIVE HEALER:
***Eastern and Western Ways Mentor
***Interfaith Ordained Schooled Minister
***Energy Healing and Intuit
***Bodywork of All Kinds
***Personal Training
*** Reconstructive Body Alignment
***Hospice Counselor
***Life Coach

MEDICAL WORK: Western World of Medicine
*** Certified Nurses Aide
*** Certified Home Health Aide
*** Certified EMT-D
*** Certified First Responder
***Ambulance Core Chief 
***Private duty cases in ICU, CCU, and ER.

PLAYING:
***Singing, Dancing, and Modeling
***Writing and Editing
***Producing and Directing 
on both sides of the camera.

MATE and HOUSEWIFE Energy:
***Love to Cook, Clean, and take care of Loved ones... 
***I am a pamperer, Hm...
***I think I was a GEISHA in a previous Life... LOL...

Hm..  NO WAY you could have been GOOD 
at all of those things and BE SUCCESSFUL-
 AND... that I had to CHOOSE ONE Path...
 or DID I ???

I CHOOSE TO THINK I AM TRULY BLESSED...
Was I skilled at all of these things ???
Yes I was-and I worked damn hard...

I was Certified, Trained, had amazing jobs with Top executives, Companies, 
and People from all around the World.

Did I have great testimonies and salaries... 
YUP...
Did I have my UP and DOWNS...
YUP...
Was I Passionate about all these things, Yes I was...


So... HOW COULD I HAVE all of these things 
in one LIFETIME even maybe; at the same time and 
be HAPPY... HEALTHY... SUCCESSFUL... and ABUNDANT...

HM...

Better yet the question WAS ???
How come when I finally got everything back to 
together again and things were AWESOME... 
BOOM...
There it would go again...

Patterns are all created from the Unconscious Stories
that we are HOOKED to...
Until we are willing to LET go and
Surrender and CHANGE, Nothing will Change...

Okay now, back to the THEN...
to get to the NOW.


WHAT I AM GOING TO SHARE WITH YOU is NOT Pretty...

Yup baring it all, laying all the cards on the table...

Will help you to see that anyone can 
Achieve, Overcome and become Anything and 
Everything they want to BE- NO MATTER WHAT...
It all boils down to CHOICE...

WHO AND WHERE I WAS THEN:
I was born in Yonkers, NY in 1964
with the birth given name of the initials of SOS...
This was very symbolic of  and in my life:
In general growing up, I was always seeking help, in trouble, 
confused, and dismayed with Life.

I had MANY health, family and relationship problems...
TODAY, I wouldn't call them problems, 
Tough LOVE lessons of self growth.

I left the United States when I was 5 years old 
and then went on to live in Mexico, Venezuela, 
and Brazil until the age of 14.
I returned to the U.S. in 9th grade of High School,
and from there Lived all over NY State, and NJ and Beyond...

I am THANKFUL and GRATEFUL NOW for the 
Journey of much travel, Yet as a youth, I was angry, 
in crisis mode all of the time and Sooo NOT thankful.

TODAY, all of that travel has made me an individual 
able to Ebb and Flow and adapt to any given 
environment or situation and to be
able to THINK on my Feet...

 It has given me the respect and knowledge 
of the many different cultures and to acknowledge all 
Beings as individuals; yet the same on a Soul level.


I look at COACHING, MENTORING and TEACHING as 
one MUST come from experience to be able to truly
help someone... and I mean Direct experience
of the things they are Mentoring or Consulting about...

 How can someone Help You about certain things unless 
they themselves have experienced similar issues ?
Your experience is unique YES... 

However, at least someone can Empath, Understand,
if they themselves have experienced it, to their own degree.

I am saying this because, as THANKFUL and GRATEFUL 
AS I AM for my LIFE... It was NOT by far an EASY path... 
I look back Now and realize the PATH I CHOOSE, was my path of
Strength, Understanding, and Compassion, for myself and others, 
to be able to use my gifts to help others get out of their Maze 
of darkness as I did.

To CHOOSE Life, To Say YES, I am bigger than ALL of this...
Everything has beauty, even within the darkness..
SO HOW CAN I CARLY ALYSSA THORNE, 
and my Transformations Life Coaching and Center  HELP YOU: 

I grew up with severe Sexual, Verbal and Physical Abuse to the extend 
that at one time I was on Social Security Disability and had severe 
Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.

I went through years of treatment and was on many western medicines, 
even hospitalized over 4 times, twice for suicide attempts.

I had repeated weight problems from Anorexia 85 lbs, which, with my 
frame- which is big boned, is not good, to bulimic and overweight 
at peak of 200 lbs.

Starting at the age of 16 entering into serious dysfunctional 
relationships... Leading to-3 Marriages to continue the abuse 
cycle from my childhood as I knew no different, and the 4th 
marriage my husband committing suicide. 
WOW...

NOW THAT IS A MOUTHFUL..
To top it all off. I was riddled with Medical Problems since
a child and stopped counting after I hit #17 surgeries for medical
reasons all within 15 years. In total 26 surgeries over my Lifetime...

This was MY attempt 
of removing the pain and memories from my body 
that was riddled with fear and pain all of the time.
I am NOT saying they weren't legitimate surgeries,
they were for REAL things, and I almost Died,
Numerous times...  

I realized Years Later as I went thru layers
of Self-Discovery and The Mind, Body,
Spirit connection that I created
the disease in my body...
A way to Deal and cope with all of the Fear,
Anger, Sadness my Inner Child felt...
And at the time the Unwillingness to Truly Forgive
SELF and Others for everything that I went thru.

SO you ask WHAT ???
Is she Crazy ???
How can she HELP ME ???
And...
I am saying... YES I CAN...

If I can take the hand I was dealt and make the 
CHOICE TO change my life around SO CAN YOU...
SO you ask-
what has changed since all of that.

Well, I will tell you. 
When my late husband died- Committed Suicide- 
I HAD A CHOICE to make, DO I CHOOSE LIFE OR DEATH ???
Do I CHOOSE to let everyone blame me ???
Beat myself up... Feel Guilty, Kill myself ???

              I smiled and Laughed a lot, I was Great at 
          Facial Masks... I had always been the Healer, Healing 
                                   others, picking partners that needed to be saved. 
I had never TRULY saved or healed myself though,
until that one fated day, when  I finally CHOOSE ME... 
I CHOOSE LIFE...


My late husband was my BIGGEST GIFT...
I THANK HIM IMMENSELY FOR THAT GIFT
OF CHOICE....and WAKING MY ASS UP...

TRUST ME, when I tell you the CHOICE was 
not EASY...I had to stand Alone, strong, let go of 
old friends, family members, the STORIES...
Stand UP to the Past, Stand up to Family members 
and STAND firm and CHOOSING ME... AND also TAKE 
RESPONSIBILITY for my Part in the allowing of the 
Co-Creation of it all...

I had to be willing to EXPOSE all the SKELETONS 
of the past, even my OWN demons, and errors. 
I had to be willing to CHOOSE to face up to MY STUFF.
Be willing to SHOW UP and NOT Care
what others thought of ME, by Sharing all of this...
Hiding was NO Longer an OPTION for me...

        NOW AM I SAYING THAT I AM ALL OF A SUDDEN SAVED, 
               DONE... Of course NOT... I am still and will always
             be Evolving, Choosing, making mistakes
along the way... THANK GOD...
Who would want to be Perfect..


THE CHOICE POINT.... 
which I wrote the piece about myJourney
from 200 lbs. to 125 lbs...



THE CHAOS within and right before his death...

Thankfully I Lost it all within 6 months,
by doing the Following


My other HUGE AHA, and Awakening to HOW 
truly PRECIOUS LIFE is and how short it can be was when...
I used to work at the WORLD TRADE CENTER... 
I was a Wellness-Fitness Consultant and Trainer...
YUP
I still have my locker keys... WOW... what a day...
Talk about a wake up CALL...

I was on my way to work that day... 
My client had called the night before to 
cancel our session, choosing to take one more
vacation day to relax at his beach house.

SO.... I went to work one hour later because of that. 
I was at the train station when the towers got hit.
Normally when my client cancelled in the past I would
have still gone in early and had a good training session for myself...
SO YES, I AM EXTREMELY THANKFUL AND 
GRATEFUL TO be Healthy, Happy and ALIVE...


SO HOW DID I DO IT ???
Well, first I had to make some HUGE life changing 
decisions. I had to let go of the People, places, and 
things that I was surrounded by that were negative 
and kept me bound to the things and experiences 
that supported my old outdated beliefs about who 
I was and what I could or could not have, Be and Do.

And like I talk about in the other article I wrote,
I am constantly Learning, Playing, and Growing
each and every day... I Choose to be Around
Positive, Happy, Healthy, Abundant People,
Places and things...

I Listen, Read, take courses on things that 
with EXPAND my Mind, Body, and Spirit...
I Nourish myself with 
Positive, Inspiring, Spiritual People and things...

 I have kept my weight off, yes I am human; 
and I have gone +5-10 or -minus 5-10...
AND...
have always brought myself back to sanity. 

I have good healthy Co-Creational friendships, 
The WORLD, The Universe is my Family...

I Surround myself with Amazing and Inspiring Teachers, and
Mentors, and just AWESOME SOULS all of the time.

I surround myself everyday, every minute as often as 
I can with Positive, Healthy, and Abundant people
and SItuations... And when I say ABUNDANT...
I am NOT just talking $$$...

I have HAD LOTS of MONEY...
I have LOST LOTS of MONEY...
AND I have ALWAYS Re-Created LOTS OF MONEY...
Money ONLY Makes YOU MORE of what YOU
Already are...
If You were miserable before MONEY...
More money is only going to  make YOU more miserable...
My LESSON around MONEY was KEEPING IT... LOL...
I was the ULTIMATE giver... Buying everything for EVERYONE,
Yet Spent Little on myself... 

I also am a HUGE BELIEVER in Spending money
on People and Global Issues now WHILE 
I am ALIVE.... I have NO NEED to die
with HUGE Wealth, I want to See it Spent and 
Used while I am ALIVE to see the GOOD it is doing...
And in the END... I am DEAD, I have NO Need to
leave a LEGACY... or for the ESTATE to be
fighting with Governments over Estate Taxes etc...
People are always talking about what they want to be REMEMBERED 
for...  And I am LIKE... HOW about NOW...
because the NOW is WHERE We currently are...
Of course I want to LEAVE this Earth-Planet better than
I Found it... And, I want to do MASSIVE Good while I am Alive...

I CHOOSE TO LIVE MY LIFE WITH 
as much SPUNK, VIGOR, HAPPINESS, HEALTH and 
ABUNDANCE as I CAN...

WHY ABUNDANCE ??? 
SO that I may GIVE a HAND UP,
Educate, Mentor, and help thousands of people, and 
organizations- help them to get out of the 
maze of negativity, disease, 
and just plain LACK MENTALITY in all areas of their life.

So I am asking YOU:
TO CHOOSE YOU TODAY...

I AM ASKING YOU:
TO CHOOSE LIFE TODAY...

I AM ASKING YOU:
TO SAY YES I CAN...


Have it all... 
Health, Abundance, Happiness and Sooooo 
much more...

YOU CAN have BOTH AND...
It doesn't have to be THIS or THAT...

                                              LEAP, DIVE, DARE, RISK TO BE THE
BEST YOU EVER... 
WHAT YOU WERE BORN TO BE... 
YOU...

HOW YOU ASK ???
Come join US on the JOURNEY to self discovery
through my Transformational  
Coaching and Consulting... 
I have an AMAZING Team that I work with...
That I have Trained to be the BEST
at what they Do...

It is a unique blend of Wellness,
Fitness, Spirituality-Meaning Your faith whatever that is,
and Conscious Business Principles and more...

We work with YOU One on One
We work on all aspects 
of you-Your Mind, Body, and Spirit...

The Merging of Eastern and Western ways... 
It is a Mind, Body, Spirit, and Soul 
recalibration into the YOU you were BORN INTO...
Which we all already know on 
some level inside, if we just choose to LISTEN... 
It is all there, just waiting to come out...

So, I invite you, to Come-
LEARN, PLAY, and GROW with Me and My Team...
You will be as much a Teacher and Healer to US, 
as I - WE will be for YOU...


Due to the Nature of Our Services, Choosing
to Keep People's Stories and Life's Private...
All Services are by Appointment ONLY...
We are currently writing a book with the PEOPLE that have 
Chosen to Share their stories, of Complete Transformations...

So Please Email us at:
tlccoaching@gmail.com
Please Provide:
 Your Name, Email
Phone Number with the Best Time to call YOU back...
Why You are Contacting Us...
Where You Honestly Think You are Now...
What is it that You Want to work on...
And How did you Find out about us...

Someone will get back to YOU...
Within 24 hrs...

We Looking forward to taking YOU from
Cocoon to Flight...
Thru
Learning, Playing and Growing... 
Thru
Creative Conscious Co-Creation...
Because in the END...
You have to Want to Co-Create with US...
As this is about YOUR life... 
And...
We Can't do it FOR YOU...
We CAN do it WITH YOU...


Thank You for being a Part of My-OUR-THE WORLD's
 Co-Creation, 
Team work is what makes the Dreams Work... 
Enjoy the Journey... 
Carly Alyssa Thorne
Creator of Transformations Life Coaching
Transformations Life Center
Transformations Life Productions



Here is a List of some of my Credentials
as I am ALWAYS.. Learning, Playing and Growing...

*Drexel Univ.-Psychology

*Certified Results Life Coach
*Certified Performance Business Consultant
*Certified NLP Practitioner and Instructor 
*Certified Platform and Presenter and Consultant
*Certified Hypnotherapist
*Interfaith Ordained Minister
*White Light Reiki Master Instructor
*Integrated Energy Therapy Master Instructor
*Certified B.E.S.T Practitioner- Morter Health System
*Personal Trainer and Pilates Instructor


Links to Explore









Join Me in Sharing this Amazing Movie By David Sharps-
"The Cure Is" You are the Cure...
All About the Mind, Body, Spirit Connection...
What we do, say, are, environment creates our reality... 
with Marianne Williamson, Greg Bradden, Bruce Lipton +++



Do it, Delegate it, or Delete it...

Have An Awesome, Amazing, Creative, Loving, Playful, Empowering, Inspiring,
High Vibrational Day... And...Teach, Give, Share, Empower and Inspire others... 
Pay Your Gifts Forward...

LOVE, CHOICE,THANKS, HEALTH,
HUMANITY and ABUNDANCE...

I CHOOSE LOVE 
WHAT DO YOU CHOOSE ???