Does it Pay to Be Honest ?

While Randy Gage has been on Vacation he has had some Amazing Speaker Guests do his Daily Wisdom Blog Posts.

About a week ago Joachim DePosada and International Speaker and the Author of "Don't Eat the Marshmallow"  a book I highly recommend wrote a blog on "Does it Pay to be Honest"

Direct Link to Blog POST by Joachim DePosada

Direct LINK to JoachimDePosada if You Would Like to find out more about Joachim and or his books etc...

One of his points was that "more often than not, dishonesty is provoked by fear or danger."

Below is Webster's dicitionary Definition of Honesty - Noun

http://www.webster-dictionary.net/definition/honesty

Hon´es`ty n. 1. Honor; honorableness; dignity; propriety; suitableness; decency. She derives her honesty and achieves her goodness. - Shak. 2 The quality or state of being honest; probity; fairness and straightforwardness of conduct, speech, etc.; integrity; sincerity; truthfulness; freedom from fraud or guile. That we may lead a quiet and peaceable life in all godliness and honesty. - 1 Tim. ii. 2. So the question is - DO YOU BELIEVE IT PAY'S TO BE HONEST ? And does Fear and or Danger play a Role in the decision making to be  dishonest ? I do Agree with Joachim DePosada that a lot of people Lie out of Fear and Or Danger...  There are quite a few degrees of difference between Fear and Danger - Are You in Fear of ? A- Hurting somebody's feelings ? B- Losing a Friend, Job, Spouse etc... ? C- Being Physically Hurt ? Obviously, A & B are very Different than C however, if one's Emotions are running high - to some A & B could feel like C.  They could feel like they are being personally attacked. Regardless, of whether it is A, B or C - I,  personally believe "HONESTY" is Key in all communications, and that in the end, it is for the greater good. And... YES... I am NOT perfect and I am sure when I was a Child I said my share of Lie's and even as an adult I know I have in the past told some lies for the same reasons listed in A, B and C. And... I am speaking from personal experience as I have personally been in the situations of A, B & C... Yes even "C" and when I was in "C" it wasn't until I was willing to be COMPLETELY "HONEST" that I was actually SAVED... And... the Cost was Extremely High... I Lost everything in the process - Friends, Family, House etc... Long Story, I did write a blog about it, however let's not get sidetracked, and get back to this Blog post.  Was it worth it ?  Absolutely 100% Yes... I got my life back literally... Today, however I have to say... I truly do attempt to be HONEST regardless of the cost and here are some of the tools I use to that, and I will also share a Story that just recently happened.  Tool One:  *Speak from a Compassionate Passionate Place. *Be Clear on Your Intention before engaging in the discussion. *What is the Purpose of this conversation. *Are you Attempting to PROVE Your Point ? *Or Are You wanting to Improve a situation that will help empower  both parties ? Tool Two:  *Look at the person's body language. *Are they going to be OPEN to  hearing what you have to say.   *Tap into Your Multi-Sensory Awareness. *Do they have their Arms crossed in front of their chest ? *Are they raising their voice ? *Are they automatically responding with a defense tone ? *Are they getting emotional - Crying ?  Here is an Article I did on The Art of Communication, What are You Saying ? Personally, I also ask someone if they are "OPEN" to Feedback and Immediately let them now that I TOO... am OPEN to all feedback... And I also never use the word "BUT" when I am sharing feedback as the word "BUT" tends to create more triggers... Example: See if you can feel and or hear the difference in this sentence.... "I Love You, But..."  "I Love You, And..." When we say the Word "BUT" the unconscious inner child comes up with waiting for the other shoe to drop if you will... We are waiting for the Criticism or we are thinking OH NO... here comes the... and then what happens is the person's ARMOR goes up and they are MORE on the defensive and ARE NOT going to hear what you are saying... Versus when we use the Word "AND"... it is a much Softer word and ALLOWS for more communication to happen...   Tool Three:  "The Four Agreements" by Don Miguel Ruiz The Biggest challenges in Speaking Honestly is NOT allowing yourself to go to two places: 1- Assuming 2- Taking things Personally Ask Questions instead of assuming and... Realize that we are all UNIQUE beings with UNIQUE perspectives on Life... and what might mean one thing to us might mean something COMPLETELY different to somebody else... I wrote a Blog Post about  Is it Criticism or Feedback ? Tool Four: Always Attempt to do important Feedback in Person. I always ATTEMPT to do feedback in PERSON or if I have to, the next best choice is via Phone... Text, Emails etc... are literally like opening Pandoras box if you will... Text and Or Emails and even the phone sometimes does not fully portray and or convey Full Intentions or Emotions. Tool Five:  In all relationships... Say THANK YOU, and Give Praise, Inspiration, and Empowerment as Often as possible. So, here is an example of a Recent Actual Facebook situation where I held true to being Honest and Authentic: An old friend who I had a Falling out with decided to Block me on Facebook, and when I was asked by various Mutual Friends I told them the TRUTH about why I had "Unfriended him" and then eventually I had to "Block" the person. That  person went onto to spreading some "UNTRUTHS" and even posted a "RANT" on their wall.  As a result, some of our "MUTUAL" Friends unfriended ME and even "BLOCKED" Me...  So, I attempted to reach out via Phone with not much success and then eventually emailed a few people and asked "Why" and that is when I found out about the person's untruthful rant.  I then proceeded to tell them my Truth and my side, however; since they had been friends with this person longer, they still choose to side with the other person... UNTIL...that person's TRUE Colors started to show... AND... I got an Email which then led to a Phone call saying... "I and the others are Soooo Sorry we didn't believe You... We have since found out You were telling the truth... Please forgive Us, we feel so bad... You have never done anything to hurt us and You are such an amazing person..." I was also asked to please add them as friends again.  I said no problem and that I understood, and that I was glad they finally saw the person's true colors and added them back as friends per their request. I also wrote a blog post on Social Media Etiquette, as a lot of problems can arise if you don't follow a few simple rules. Social Media: Who - Why - When - What - How Etiquette Another Midnight Production Enjoy the Journey 2012©Carly Alyssa Thorne

Does Success = Freedom

So, I Re-Posted this to my Facebook Today and somebody Wrote:

"Except, I would view this more as FREEDOM than success, don't you think?"

So, I replied with:

"I think it is a BOTH And... Success is FREEDOM..."

And then he Replied with...

"Success is freedom? I can see how successes could lead to freedom, but not how it is freedom. Please help me to understand"

My Reply to that was:

When You are Successful in many ways that gives us the Liberty to do more of the things we LOVE - if You plan your Success right... Create a TEAM so you aren't Slaving at something...  When You do what you what, when you want, with whom you want... that is pretty damn Successful... Most Never ATTAIN this in there life's...

And his Last Reply was:

Yes, but I think Tony Robbins is misleading. SUCCESS is an accomplishment. SUCCESS is achievement. Success comes from something we do, but freedom is a state of being. 

What Tony suggests above is an illusion because no degree of success will produce that quality of freedom and any successful people who attempt to live according to that risk losing both their success and their freedom.

So.... The Question I pose to YOU is ?  Do You believe "Doing What You want, when you want, where You want, with whom You want, as much as You want.,"

is Freedom or Success or Both and... ?

Personally my opinion is: If Your Product and or Service is providing massive Value and therefore is generating massive abundance and... You put together an Awesome Team and You are a Good Leader that Collaborates with Your Team... That would be a definition of Success and... That would give You the Freedom to: Do what You want, when You want, where You want, with whom You want, as much as You want - therefore Success = Freedom and I would also say Freedom = Success.  Bottom line Freedom = Success and or Success = Freedom Both AND...  is all a part of personal Perspective and Language - Semantics... 

And... I have found those that actually do- "do what they want, when they want, where they want, with whom they want, as much as they want" create their own freedom and success.  

Freedom and Or Success are both a STATE of Being just depends oh what You define "State of Being". 

The other side of that would be in doing "what You want, when You want, where You want, with whom You want, as much as You want" if You don't have a team in place, and or an organization and or Life that is time oriented and or structured to some degree - You will have NO TIME  and hence NO FREEDOM... 

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Christmas Ease or Rush... And....

First things First... 

I truly hope everyone had a Happy Holiday filled with Lots of Love.... And.... 

The Holidays and What does it all mean...

And... Is it a blissful fun time or a rush... rush... rush... Stressful time....

So... let me start with... Years ago... I was a Christmas and or any Holiday Nut, all the Presents, Wrapping paper, Decorations, Food, People etc... etc... etc...

Then Years passed and I truly started to on some level resent

the whole Shopping industry, commercials etc... 

WHY ?

Here are some of the Why's... 

It seems to me that the way we treat people on the Holidays Would be the same way we treat people all Year Round... It is about the People, the interaction, the Love, NOT the Gifts and the Holiday Commercial Hype that Just for 12/23 Pre Xmas or 12/26 Post Xmas 50% off sale etc...

However...

Most people tend to mostly gather, talk, gift etc... on Holidays and or Birthdays...

So... I started to rebel and did the following:

I choose to NOT participate in  the Holidays in the traditional ways...

***It first started with the Wrapping paper Carly Strike LOL...

I always thought even when I was a Holiday nut that wrapping paper was such a waste... So, to save on paper and for the sake of the trees, I would take presents and buy the regular brown paper bags with handles that could be reused and or recycled, decorate them, and put the present in Unwrapped and just use one sheet of Tissue paper to stuff the bag so there would some element of Surprise. And... I also would ask for a List of Suggested Gifts wanted to ensure that people actually got what they really needed and or wanted... 

***Then, I started Choosing to see my Friends and or Family days and or even weeks before the Holiday, so that I could actually spend some Quality time with them, because otherwise on the Actual Holidays there was soooo many people, and the cooking, rushing, organizing that I never really got to spend any ACTUAL QUALITY time with the people I wanted to...

And... OMG the Traffic, the Airports... 

By the time you arrive at your destination, you are stressed...

Now to me... Holidays are not about Stress and rushing...

***Then... I wanted to change the Actual Annual tradition of sending out  all of these cards with stamps that seemed so Automatic instead of personal... 

So, instead I would send Self-Made fun photo collages and story board videos via email and yes a few actually got mailed for those who were either ill and or older who did not do email... and also follow up with a Live phone call and in person visit - the visit however would take place before or after the Holidays to allow quality time...

 

Now lets get to the Actual Holidays Itself...

How to have a Stress Free, not running around with your head cut off Holiday...

Think of your Holiday Gathering as Running a Production... You need to assign people assignments and have everything literally on a time schedule... there is nothing worse than last minute running around, and certain foods not being done on time etc...

***Be Crystal clear with your Guests, what they ARE or are NOT  bringing and how you want it when it arrives... Cold, Hot, Sliced, Read to go etc... 

***Key Also have a Crystal Clear ARRIVAL time... There is nothing worse than people arriving early while you are still attempting to set up and finishing cooking and clean up in the kitchen etc...  

Understandably, there will be some people that arrive late... Traffic, last minute something... Again, just ask your guests to let you know if they are running late etc... Common Courtesy to Your Host and the other guests... They May CHOOSE to wait till Your Late comers arrive to start eating.

Now this is a MUST: 

***Hire at LEAST ONE  person whose ONLY job is to clean up the entire evening...  So, YOU the Host - are actually open, worry free  and available to be with your guests...

***KEY... It is the Holidays after all... - Invite the people you Hire to actually (after all of the Logistics are taken care of)  SIT down at the table with YOU and Eat... then after eating they can go back to their job... And... Pay them Well... 

The Holidays can be an amazing, beautiful, warm, Loving time... However...

Yes... it does take some effort, time, planning and logistics... So why not make it easy on yourself and others by putting some effort into organizational logistics part of it, it makes for a much more fun, smooth running gathering...

Happy Holidays Everyone...

Enjoy the Journey...

End of this One and the Beginning of a New One... 

2013

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What does being "UNIQUE" Mean to YOU ?

While Randy Gage is On a much needed Vacation, he is having is daily wisdom blogs done by Guest Speakers...

This last Blog Post written by Bruce Turkel brought up some interesting points I would Like to explore.

CLICK HERE TO READ BRUCE TURKEL'S BLOG POST on RANDY GAGE's Site...

So let's start with the definition of Unique- According to Wikipedia:

So one of the things Bruce Turkel states and I am summarizing here-  that the word UNIQUE is overused and can be of disservice because the actual search for uniqueness is an never-ending search and it is a very tall order.  He Concludes with the quote by Oscar Wilde - 
"Be Yourself. Everyone else is already taken."  
(I encourage everyone to read Bruce Turkel's post, link above, great read.)

What I would like to add to that is - some people get so wrapped up in being UNIQUE and the search that they get LOST along the way and or get so frustrated in the process of the search and what it takes to be UNIQUE... that they also wind up giving up...

One of the Keys I would like to address is:

What does "UNIQUE" mean to YOU ?

If we go by the Dictionary version that I can completely agree that is quite UNIQUE to achieve the status of UNIQUE... 

I feel like most things, everybody has a different version 

and or perspective on a definition of a word...

What is Yours ?

When I hear the Word UNIQUE and or use the Word UNIQUE or tell my clients to be UNIQUE... What I am saying and meaning is to be your Own Authentic Self...  When you are NOT being yourself and are just spitting out status quo statements, and do the typical hand movements and or Staged Postures etc... and are Attempting to be Somebody else... People know it and quite frankly are tired of the canned or memorized responses and or speeches and behavior... At least I personally am...

When I hear a friend and or speaker speak etc... I want to see the same authentic person on stage as I know him or her when I shake their hand, talk to them or go out to dinner with them...

Now let us take this a Step Further Mark Sanborn in his book "Up, Down, or Sideways" 

CLICK HERE TO GO TO MARK SANBORN's Website...

(Another Book I highly recommend...)

Mark talks about one of his Successes as a Lead trainer for Tom Peters-In Search of Excellence seminar based on the book with the same title.
Mark says that he attributes his success over other trainers because they were just copying Tom Peter's jokes, and the way Tom Peter's delivered on stage... While, Mark Sanborn choose to teach and speak from his Own Unique and Authentic way... He still delivered the same information just in his own way...

I have been in relationships way back when, when the person I was dating when we were together they were one way, then when we would go out, he would be completely different with this sailing buddies, completely different with his work out buddies, completely different with Family etc... etc... etc...

For me that is not being your authentic self.... When I would ask him why...
He would tell me, I can't let my Business or Sailing buddies know that I am Spiritual and do Yoga and am into that metaphysical stuff, they wouldn't understand...

That type of living just doesn't work for me, and I Choose to Collaborate, Share, Consult, and be with people that LOVE being just themselves...

People who know me, know what they are going to get - in person, coaching, consulting and or on stage... High Energy, Drive, Passion, and Straight Talk, that is Compassionate yet to the point...  Spiritual Yes, Metaphysical Yes, Yet when I talk , I am talking from a very grounded place with a lot of Warrior Energy... I mix in my Spiritual Metaphysical side into teaching in a very western almost logical way... so that all Audiences More Western and or More Eastern can take the tools and apply them in their daily life and business.

Not everyone wants to know what colors the chakras are, are they male or female, which way they are spinning, what organs they are associated with etc... Some people just want to know the  basics and how they can merge Eastern ways and techniques that they can apply in their daily Western ways... 

Bottom Line... Love who You are, and 

Be YOUR OWN Unique Authentic self... 

I still LOVE the word Unique... 

I just view it in a much bigger scope and with a Both AND... Mentality...  

   Enjoy the Journey...

Is it Criticism or Feedback ?

Is it Criticism or Feedback ?

And Do You agree with this quote ?

"Criticism is something we can avoid easily 

by saying nothing, doing nothing, 

and being nothing."

~ Aristotle

I can agree with the Avoiding because you can CHOOSE to not be around people that are constantly Negative or Critical...  And I can agree to disagree... And I get that the quote when it is saying "being nothing" means to go to the space of just being PRESENT and NOTHING else... hence being Nothing...

Soooo, What I would Like to Address is...

Is it Criticism or Feedback ???

and...

The Doing Nothing...

In my personal Opinion we have a CHOICE to view things said to us as Criticism or Feedback...  Positive or Negative or... as Information in which

we get to Learn, Play and Grow from... and that the informations is neither Good or Bad if you will... It is what it is... Information...

I LOVE feedback as it gives me CHOICES...

I can choose to Learn from the feedback

I can actively implement the feedback

I can say NEXT..

OR... I can

Get Pissy about it

Vent about it

Bite back

etc...

Now it also helps Immensely if the person has learned some skills in the Compassionate Passionate Communication department as well...  

Telling someone they are an SOB is very different then telling them, You know I really don't appreciate that behavior or tone etc...

Now onto the DOING NOTHING:

I think SOCIETY as a whole has gone too Extreme in the 

DO or DO NOT DO... Dept...

(I have written several blogs about it... The Principle of the Both AND... Mentality...)

AND...

I think they both serve a purpose, have a place....

I don't think sitting idle when someone is damaging your career, 

life with vicious

attacks on your name and or reputation solves anything either...

AND...

I don't think CURSING at the person and calling them an ASS

etc... is the answer either....

AND...

I agree that LIFE requires ACTIVE DOING Participation in our LIFES... 

if we are planning on achieving success at anything whether it be:

Health, Wealth, Relationships, Spirituality etc...

No different than the ASK and Receive Principes and Metaphysics...

Truly the whole Principle and Concepts can be debated endlessly...

And the debates would be endless on Faith, Belief, Energy,

Work Hard, No short cuts etc... etc... etc...

AND...

I have Personally seen BOTH ways Work for BOTH parties the ones more Western and Logical and the ones more Eastern and Spiritual...

So... WHO IS RIGHT ?

I will go back to

It is what it is, based on YOUR Reality and Perception...

Enjoy the Journey...

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The ART of the MULTI-SENSORY Journey

The Art of the Multi-Sensory Journey

The Art of Seeing, What are You Seeing ?

The Art of Touch, What are You Feeling ?

The Art of Listening, What are You Hearing ?

The Art of Communicating, What are You Saying ?

I would LOVE to hear some comments and or feedback from the articles below.
The below are just PORTIONS of the Course, not the totality of the course, however will give you a enough to think about and tools to start applying now.

Preframe: These articles are more geared towards personal relationships, however; all of the techniques and or tools and exercises can be slightly modified and or used as is, in any business and or team leadership building course. I have used them in both settings.

We are in the middle of Production to make this into an Ebook, Audio Book, Print Manual and filming this Course to make it into a DVD Course and for the ULTIMATE multi-sensory experience a Live Version which I used to teach back east at my center.

If After reading the below You want to either take the course, be a part of the filming for the course, please email me directly at tlccoaching@gmail.com
in subject heading please put "The Multi-Sensory Journey".

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Embrace the BOTH AND... Mentality...

Embracing the BOTH AND... Mentality cross ranges into all topics...

A good friend wrote a Post on this wall and asked this Question..

"What is the ONE thing you could change about yourself and why ?"

My Answer: Nothing and Everything...

"Nothing and Everything... Nothing... Because first of all of those PAST experiences has made me who I am and Everything because I would do it differently from what I NOW Know... and This is a Tricky Question if YOU REALLY Get into it... Because some believe in Fate, Destiny, Karma, Dharma etc...  So, if I Believe I Choose my Mother who had German Measles and RH Negative Blood while she was Pregnant with me and was told to abort me because I would be born with a ton of medical problems and she didn't abort me and here I am now at 48 going on Surgery #27 and... have dedicated my life to Learning about Health,  Nutrition, Eastern and Western Healing and Medicine etc.. etc..etc... and I said I want to Change my Health and even though I have done everything within my Power thru All Sorts of Techniques, Healing etc.. etc.. etc... and I am still having Medical Challenges...  Soooo... I would have to SAY Nothing and Everything within the COSMIC INTERCONNECTEDNESS of The Why we are the Way we are... "

I mean this is an ENDLESS, LIMITLESS answer... Especially if you get into the whole Both And Principles and this Multi-Dimensional world we are in.

Why does an Innocent child get sick ?

Why does someone get killed ? Etc... and who is Right... 

The one that believes in Fate, Destiny, they deserved it because... etc...

Enjoy the Journey

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The Healing Journey of Bridging The East and The West and Accepting Both And...

Here is a Piece I did for Women for One...

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CLICK Here to View Article on Website...

Another Article I did addressing the Both And... Principle

of Eastern and Western Medicine, Healing etc...

CLICK Here to See other Article on Bridging the East and The West

Just Because I Love what I do... Doesn't mean I will do it for Free...

I have been wanting to write about this for awhile and have been asked many times because I have a few interesting thoughts about this.

Some agree and some don't and that is all good.  

So here are a few of my thoughts on this subject.

First let me start off with:
I ABSOLUTELY AGREE WE ALL DESERVE TO GET PAID FOR WHAT WE DO...

Now... How to get paid Abundantly and what you Deserve for doing what You Love... Well... This all depends on many people's unique version of what they hold true for themselves as to what is getting PAID Abundantly, what they Deserve, what Values they hold and in what currencies they are willing to get paid in and what that all means to them personally...

Ok - before we go on let me address the BIG PINK ELEPHANT in the Room... Yes- we are living in the 20th century in which actual currency is in the form of $$$ - Money and we all have Bills to pay and a certain lifestyle we have chosen. I am also going to say upfront that Yes, You can be Spiritual and Abundant.  And... Will add to that, that the more wealth you have, the more Flexibility you will have to help others... It is what it is... 

Now... 

Having grown up overseas, seen various cultures and having myself been very Wealthy, and Very Poor, even on Disability a few times due to medical issues,  and having Lived off the Grid, Off the Land, Owned several businesses, did the 9-5, Self Employed, Full Salary, Only Commissions, Part Salary-Part Commissions, Part Barter, Full Barter etc... 

Grown up in Mansions-Like the one Above - Seriously I used to get LOST in my own homes as a kid sometimes... Ridiculous..  I can also say I didn't grow up with a Silver spoon in my mouth, quite the opposite. The Houses where Amazing, yet I wore hand me down clothes, never went to summer camps like everyone else, except Once... etc... etc.. etc... Not the time or place.. Just providing reference points of talking from experience... I Left home before graduating High School and got creative housing by Babysitting and House Care taking in exchange for Room and Board while I still went to school.  Over the years have owned several large houses, Many toys, and also have Lived in a ONE Room Flat, Lived and slept in the middle of a Jungle for up to 6 months with a screen in kitchen, an outhouse etc... etc... etc...  So- I can talk from experiences from all sides of the situation.  I can't claim to having ever been a Multi-Millionaire however, worked with many and handled Accounting and Funds in the Millions for clients, and have created massive abundance for clients and an abundant living for myself when not  in Medical Crisis and having multiple surgeries that is a another topic... Yet regardless of setbacks I ALWAYS Rose back up thru the ashes if you will...

I can AGREE on the Following:
When we PROVIDE:

-Massive Value
-Quality
-Authenticity
-Growth
-Experience
-Problem solving
-Solutions
-Creativity
And... All of the above done with excellent Customer Service with an Open Mind and Heart...  I absolutely AGREE we all deserve Payment:
Now here is where I am more of a BOTH and... 

-Some only Choose to work with Extremely Wealthy Clients.
-Some only Choose to work with the underdogs.
-Some only take Cash
-Some do Smaller Front Ends, and bigger back ends once they have proven
their theory and or success for their clients.
-Some will do a Larger Front end and then a certain lower back end.
-Some do not believe in Sliding scales
-Some do not believe in Charity
-Some refuse to do MLM's
-Some Swear by MLM's

etc... etc... etc...

Here are my Both ANDS...
In today's society there is this merging bridging with Eastern and Western ways. And... There is a Large gap in Abundance cross culturally and economically...  And with the economy being the way it is...
WHY would one ONLY Choose ONE way...  

There are a few books I Love that speak to this - of course in their unique 
perspective, and discuss Values, Giving, Authenticity, Out of the Box thinking +++  I Love reading them because they always make me smile, because I have always gotten a lot of BS if you will for not doing things the typical, dogmatic way when it comes to Abundance or Livelihood if you will:

Here are a few of my Favorites: 
-The Go-Giver by Bob Burg
-Up, Down or Sideways by Mark Sanborn
-Risky is the New Safe - The Rules Have Changed by Randy Gage
-Don't Gobble the Marshmallow... Ever ! by Joachim Posada
and Many More...

I encourage anyone to read them if they haven't.

Now back on topic... So where I am going with this well I absolutely Love to work with Amazing, Intelligent, Abundant People and Companies of all walks of Life, Cultures, and Abundance... Not just the wealthy, not just the underdogs...  I have learned VOLUMES From both and...

I do have some boundaries when it comes to the both and...
I also do believe that boundaries have a purpose and can serve to empower both parties...

***I do not give services and or product away for free, unless I have chosen to donate my time to a charity or an event for a specific reason.
Let me Clarify:  Writing Blogs Posts, giving information of value for free I think is great, however giving away actual product and services I have found... 
***Most people DO NOT get the value if something is given to them for free. 
They don't take it as seriously so think they can do the tasks etc... whenever it so suits them etc... 
***And... Studies show you just wind up creating an Email list that the industry has called: - The Freebie List.  

I want to Empower, Teach and Give to people who REALLY want it, will follow thru and understands, values and respects themselves and the services I am providing.

I have therefore done all sorts of creative ways of payment when working with people who in my opinion don't need a Hand-OUT... Need a Hand-UP if you will either thru knowledge, skills, connections, Love, Self-empowerment, Inspiration, Guidance etc...  Keeping in Mind when I say Payment that does not ALWAYS mean $$$.  ***I do make sure to keep the percentages of unique payment arrangements in check with actual physical currency to meet my responsibilities.

***I only turn people away for lack of commitment, due diligence, and not following thru with appointments etc... If someone shows me commitment, drive, willingness to learn and have an open mind, I will find a way for both parties to be happy.

**I do not tolerate passive-aggressive, I know it all, constant negativity behavior.

I believe that Deep down we all Crave, Inspiration, Empowerment, Love, and Success... and all of those things mean Different things to everyone... and if I am not willing to meet people where they are at and ONLY Choose ONE WAY
I too am loosing out on a lot of Learning, Inspiration, Empowerment, Love and Success...

I hope you all find your own Unique ways of making you Happy, Successful, Healthy and Abundant doing what you Love...

As always Enjoy the Journey...

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