Life Obligation or Opportunity ?

I had Just Thanked someone for sharing a Post of of mine and this is what he wrote back: "You are among the few who I follow, as you represent that "know, like, trust factor. Wherever I see your brand, I'm going to read—wanted to click because I know, like, and trust your brand. So you are always welcome, Carly!!!!"

So this was my Reply:
"Thank You Sooo Much, I Live to Empower, Inspire, Educate others... It is my Life, My Passion, My Love, my Work which to me is Playtime... What more JOY can I have in my life than where I help others, Laugh, Smile, Grow etc... have an amazing Sunday..."

So My Question to You is:  Do You See Life and or things that happen to You or that You have to do in your Life as Obligation or Opportunity ?

Everything that happens to You or that You have to do in this LIFE in my personal Opinion is an Opportunity...  

An Extreme Example: I grew up with Abuse of all Kinds which has affected my body Massively Physically which created many REAL Medical Issues = 27 Surgeries, Emotionally I had to Learn to navigate Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, Spiritually spent Years Questioning "WHY". 

CHOICES: Hate, Anger, Abuse,Victimhood  etc...
Yes, when I was Younger I did go thru my Years of hate and anger, however
I never hurt someone Physically.  We are all human so I would never say I have never hurt someone Emotionally and Or Spiritually, we all have at some point in our life's.

The OPPORTUNITY: 
To spend my Life Inspiring, Empowering, Educating others, on Everything I studied, Learned etc...
I Love to help others Discover: 
*Western and Eastern Health as YES they both have a purpose at certain phases of Growth, Illness etc...
*The Mind Body Spirit Interconnectedness
*How to bring Consciousness into Business- Hence the terminology
Conscious Business Collaboration.
*How to tap into their Multi-Sensory- a powerful tool for Expanding our
Awareness of all of the OPPORTUNITIES that is all around us each and every day...
*Effective communication- hence Compassionate Passionate Communications
And Many others things...

Also REALIZE WE ARE:

All of Life is CHOICES.... And WE have the OPPORTUNITY to Write, Re-Write Our stories at any given moment.

Another Example of Opportunity: 

My Last Surgery, while in the Hospital I had CHOICES....

To be Mean, Moody, Not honor a Prior Obligation etc...

Yes I was in Massive Pain... However... Instead I Choose Inspiration and found Opportunity to Smile, Laugh, help others in other hospital bed, help Empower others and even gave out Pay it Forward Bracelets to the Staff that were amazing AND...  Honored my obligation to a Prior Radio interview only 10 days after Massive Surgery.

Wrote a Blog Post about it called: "Paying It Forward From Anywhere"

CLICK HERE TO READ POST

So again I ask You....

 Do You See Life and or things that happen to You or that You have to do in your Life as Obligation or Opportunity ?

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2013©Carly Alyssa Thorne

Enjoy the Journey

What does being "UNIQUE" Mean to YOU ?

While Randy Gage is On a much needed Vacation, he is having is daily wisdom blogs done by Guest Speakers...

This last Blog Post written by Bruce Turkel brought up some interesting points I would Like to explore.

CLICK HERE TO READ BRUCE TURKEL'S BLOG POST on RANDY GAGE's Site...

So let's start with the definition of Unique- According to Wikipedia:

So one of the things Bruce Turkel states and I am summarizing here-  that the word UNIQUE is overused and can be of disservice because the actual search for uniqueness is an never-ending search and it is a very tall order.  He Concludes with the quote by Oscar Wilde - 
"Be Yourself. Everyone else is already taken."  
(I encourage everyone to read Bruce Turkel's post, link above, great read.)

What I would like to add to that is - some people get so wrapped up in being UNIQUE and the search that they get LOST along the way and or get so frustrated in the process of the search and what it takes to be UNIQUE... that they also wind up giving up...

One of the Keys I would like to address is:

What does "UNIQUE" mean to YOU ?

If we go by the Dictionary version that I can completely agree that is quite UNIQUE to achieve the status of UNIQUE... 

I feel like most things, everybody has a different version 

and or perspective on a definition of a word...

What is Yours ?

When I hear the Word UNIQUE and or use the Word UNIQUE or tell my clients to be UNIQUE... What I am saying and meaning is to be your Own Authentic Self...  When you are NOT being yourself and are just spitting out status quo statements, and do the typical hand movements and or Staged Postures etc... and are Attempting to be Somebody else... People know it and quite frankly are tired of the canned or memorized responses and or speeches and behavior... At least I personally am...

When I hear a friend and or speaker speak etc... I want to see the same authentic person on stage as I know him or her when I shake their hand, talk to them or go out to dinner with them...

Now let us take this a Step Further Mark Sanborn in his book "Up, Down, or Sideways" 

CLICK HERE TO GO TO MARK SANBORN's Website...

(Another Book I highly recommend...)

Mark talks about one of his Successes as a Lead trainer for Tom Peters-In Search of Excellence seminar based on the book with the same title.
Mark says that he attributes his success over other trainers because they were just copying Tom Peter's jokes, and the way Tom Peter's delivered on stage... While, Mark Sanborn choose to teach and speak from his Own Unique and Authentic way... He still delivered the same information just in his own way...

I have been in relationships way back when, when the person I was dating when we were together they were one way, then when we would go out, he would be completely different with this sailing buddies, completely different with his work out buddies, completely different with Family etc... etc... etc...

For me that is not being your authentic self.... When I would ask him why...
He would tell me, I can't let my Business or Sailing buddies know that I am Spiritual and do Yoga and am into that metaphysical stuff, they wouldn't understand...

That type of living just doesn't work for me, and I Choose to Collaborate, Share, Consult, and be with people that LOVE being just themselves...

People who know me, know what they are going to get - in person, coaching, consulting and or on stage... High Energy, Drive, Passion, and Straight Talk, that is Compassionate yet to the point...  Spiritual Yes, Metaphysical Yes, Yet when I talk , I am talking from a very grounded place with a lot of Warrior Energy... I mix in my Spiritual Metaphysical side into teaching in a very western almost logical way... so that all Audiences More Western and or More Eastern can take the tools and apply them in their daily life and business.

Not everyone wants to know what colors the chakras are, are they male or female, which way they are spinning, what organs they are associated with etc... Some people just want to know the  basics and how they can merge Eastern ways and techniques that they can apply in their daily Western ways... 

Bottom Line... Love who You are, and 

Be YOUR OWN Unique Authentic self... 

I still LOVE the word Unique... 

I just view it in a much bigger scope and with a Both AND... Mentality...  

   Enjoy the Journey...

Is it Criticism or Feedback ?

Is it Criticism or Feedback ?

And Do You agree with this quote ?

"Criticism is something we can avoid easily 

by saying nothing, doing nothing, 

and being nothing."

~ Aristotle

I can agree with the Avoiding because you can CHOOSE to not be around people that are constantly Negative or Critical...  And I can agree to disagree... And I get that the quote when it is saying "being nothing" means to go to the space of just being PRESENT and NOTHING else... hence being Nothing...

Soooo, What I would Like to Address is...

Is it Criticism or Feedback ???

and...

The Doing Nothing...

In my personal Opinion we have a CHOICE to view things said to us as Criticism or Feedback...  Positive or Negative or... as Information in which

we get to Learn, Play and Grow from... and that the informations is neither Good or Bad if you will... It is what it is... Information...

I LOVE feedback as it gives me CHOICES...

I can choose to Learn from the feedback

I can actively implement the feedback

I can say NEXT..

OR... I can

Get Pissy about it

Vent about it

Bite back

etc...

Now it also helps Immensely if the person has learned some skills in the Compassionate Passionate Communication department as well...  

Telling someone they are an SOB is very different then telling them, You know I really don't appreciate that behavior or tone etc...

Now onto the DOING NOTHING:

I think SOCIETY as a whole has gone too Extreme in the 

DO or DO NOT DO... Dept...

(I have written several blogs about it... The Principle of the Both AND... Mentality...)

AND...

I think they both serve a purpose, have a place....

I don't think sitting idle when someone is damaging your career, 

life with vicious

attacks on your name and or reputation solves anything either...

AND...

I don't think CURSING at the person and calling them an ASS

etc... is the answer either....

AND...

I agree that LIFE requires ACTIVE DOING Participation in our LIFES... 

if we are planning on achieving success at anything whether it be:

Health, Wealth, Relationships, Spirituality etc...

No different than the ASK and Receive Principes and Metaphysics...

Truly the whole Principle and Concepts can be debated endlessly...

And the debates would be endless on Faith, Belief, Energy,

Work Hard, No short cuts etc... etc... etc...

AND...

I have Personally seen BOTH ways Work for BOTH parties the ones more Western and Logical and the ones more Eastern and Spiritual...

So... WHO IS RIGHT ?

I will go back to

It is what it is, based on YOUR Reality and Perception...

Enjoy the Journey...

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©CarlyAlyssaThorne