Showing posts with label Choice. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Choice. Show all posts

Sunday, January 20, 2013

Did I just Say That ???




On a recent post I read, the person replayed her day of a string of events including the losing of Car keys that got lost in the process of frustration. She later recognized the behavior and was actually surprised by some of it.  - The end result being that as soon as she Left go of everything (Frustration etc) the keys were quickly recovered.

So, the question is, has this every happened to You ?
And...
Who Controls our Reactions in times of stress ?

First things first, regardless of how much self-growth you have done, NLP, Hypnosis, Behavior Recognition, Behavior Modification etc... We have ALL had those moments of OMG... Did I just say and or do that...

What basically happens during times of Distress is our bodies go to two places:
1- The unconscious - Old behaviors will come up, sometimes even very early childlike behaviors.
2- Under extreme distress - The Flight or Flee alarm goes off.
Your body is designed to do whatever it takes to protect you from the presumed or actual threat.

There is also an actual Chemical Reaction that is happening - Our Cortisol (Stress Hormone) goes up, we start to sweat, our heart starts to beat faster etc...

Example of this: 
Why do you think they ask a Pregnant woman and her partner to pre-pack a bag and keep it in the car and to actively rehearse the action steps agreed upon for when the time comes they need to get to the Hospital.

It is because they know that when the moment arrives, emotional reactions will take over the action steps they have agreed upon.

So again I ask Who is in Control of our Reactions ?

While Yes it is true under extreme situations we might have the offbeat reaction one that we never anticipated, there are steps we can take to MINIMIZE them...
Let's face it, unless you have been trained for Extreme situations and are an:
Crisis Intervention Expert, A Fire Fighter, EMT, etc... chances are you are going to have some behavior come up that you would not expect.

Here are just a few of the Steps to take even before any events happen.
-Choose to Live a Life of Compassion and Kindness.
-Pay attention to what triggers You.
-Start becoming actively involved in catching yourself when a trigger starts.
-Learn some self NLP- Neuro Linguistic Programming.
-Learn some self Hypnosis techniques.


Here are just a few of the Steps we can take when under active stress:
-Step away from the situation and do something else.
-Step away from the situation and just Breathe, taking 3 Deep Breathes in and out makes a huge difference, it instantly starts to calm your nervous system down.
-Call a meeting to discuss the situation with all involved.
-If it is just You in the situation alone, do the breathing and step away.
-If You are actively involved in an intense situation and are alone, go seek the help of others.

Another Midnight Production
Enjoy the Journey
©2013 Carly Alyssa Thorne 

Sunday, January 6, 2013

Birth - Death - Too Old - Choice


A Previous Blog Post and a Pod Cast I did on Conscious Death n' Dying


So my questions to You would Be the following and
Have You truly thought about the following:

How Old do you want to Live to ?
What is Your Purpose for wanting to Live till that Age ?
What are Your Terms for Your Living till that Age ?

Meaning- 
You Really need to get clear on your Intentions for wanting to Live till a certain age and under what environment and or conditions you would be willing to live till that Age...

*Most people FEAR Death and the Unknown.
*Most DO NOT want to end Up Living all alone in a Nursing Home ?
*Today's Society is constantly upping the Game on Longevity with Technology
and MANY are fascinated with what that all means...

It has almost become a Game to see how Long we can live and or cheat out on Death... 

Sooo... Again I ask the questions...

How Old do you want to Live to ?
What is Your Purpose for wanting to Live till that Age ?
What are Your Terms for Your Living till that Age ?
What is Your REAL WHY ???

So here is the Thing-
Depending on Your own UNIQUE belief's, faith, fears etc... We could get into Endless conversations about Ethics about the prolonging or ending of ones life...  Fate, Destiny, Karma +++

The QUESTION Still remains the WHY you would Choice to either Prolong or End Yours or others Life... and What are the Terms... 
And... 
Do We Really have the Control and or the Choice ?

Personally - I have NO desire to Live into my Hundreds UNLESS...
-I could Actively Contribute MASSIVE Value to Others and myself.
-I was Healthy in a way where I was able to ACTIVELY Contribute
to Others and Self Mentally, Physically, Emotionally, and Spiritually...
-I could Actively Take Care of Myself Mentally, Physically, Emotionally, and Spiritually...
-I do Believe that ATTITUDE is everything...
-I do Believe we are ONLY as OLD as we Act and Feel.
And... I also Believe that we Can't Control everything...
And that sometimes things happen to even AMAZING people...

I have No need and or desire to Live into my Hundreds waiting for the next cure and or to have others caretake me just to see the newest and lastest technology...

Personally-
I am Okay with the Unknown...
I am Okay with the Possibilities of Next Lives...
I am Okay with Letting Go when it is time...
I am at Peace whether I Live Beyond Tomorrow...
And Because of that...
I Live Each and everyday of my Life to my Fullest ability
Mentally, Physically, Emotionally, and Spiritually...
to the best of my Ability...

Another Midnight Production








Friday, December 7, 2012

Life Can be like A Box of Crayons...

Life Can be like A Box of Crayons...


I had a Dream last night and literally woke up with you have to write a blog post about "Life is like a box of Crayons" so after lots of other editing etc... I had to do today, here it is night time once again and so we begin with...
Why Life is and can be like a box of crayons...

Have you ever watched a Child with Crayons, truly watched them...  
Ever child is different:
-Some Kids have to keep all of their crayons is a certain order...
-Other kids pour them out all over the floor or table...
-Other kids pour them out and then make different piles
to Categorize the colors...
-Some kids even go so far as to sort the crayons and actually
Choose all of the colors they like and throw the rest out.
-Some kids request a plastic bin to keep all of their crayons
in so they dig in and grab the ones they want.
-Some have to keep the crayons in the box at all times, and just
pull one out one crayon at a time, use it and then put it back in...
-Some kids will color using every single color...
-Some kids will only color with one color...
-Some color in the lines...
-Some color outside the lines...

So....
How does this apply to Life ?
How doesn't it apply to Life, would be my question ?

How we approach Anything - A relationship, a business project 
is unique to how we Process...
Are we Left brained or Right brained ?
Are we Auditory, Visual, Kinesthetic, Audio Digital etc....

Now... Imagine if we STRETCHED Ourselves and made ourselves Choose or Do something differently...
-Practice writing with our other hand...
-Choose to get a bit more organized - linear...
-Choose to not only read that book, however next time, to also listen to the book via Audio.
-We as a culture do NOT use a large portion of our brains...
-As we have gotten older we have become FIXED on our points of view.

Studies have shown that if we STRETCH ourselves we engage and or train, wire if you will different pathways in our brains, therefore gaining access to further creativity and problem solving etc...

I invite everyone to get creative and messy...  To Literally Learn, Play and Grow like when we were a kid... Get Silly, Laugh, Sing, Dance... and YES COLOR...

My invitation or challenge to you would be to do this ONCE as soon as possible by yourself... Then do this Once a week with your kids, friends or Team...




Now I want you to think about after you did this by yourself-
***How did it feel doing that ?
***Where you attempting to clean up the entire time ?
***Did you go to the place of Judgement - and say this is silly
I am not doing this ?
Pain Attention to what came up for you...

My Favorite has been to hold a weekly Meeting - That day is dress casual day and you have a meeting that is with Crayons, Paints, Markers, Silly Scissors, Blackboards etc.. and each week the team picks a project to do it on... I have personally seen some amazing, awesome, brilliant ideas, campaigns, problems solved in some of these Colorful brainstorming mastermind meetings - sessions...

It is amazing what an amazing positive impact this can have.  I have led many of these at corporate trainings.  Yes, you heard me RIGHT... Corporate Trainings...

Here is some of the results and or impact it has had:
-Greater Creativity
-Group Rapport
-Looking forward to the Weekly meetings
-Outside of the box thinking
-Teamwork
-Sharing
-Collaboration
-A more Positive Atmosphere


Another Midnight Production
Until Next Time... Enjoy the Journey
Carly Alyssa Thorne


Tuesday, November 20, 2012

Thank Your Past - Your Life is a Gift...


I saw a Picture Quote today that said:
"What do you with a Mistakes:
Recognize it, admit it, learn from it, forget it"

Below is My Response to this:
I say...