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Life Can be like A Box of Crayons...

Life Can be like A Box of Crayons...

I had a Dream last night and literally woke up with you have to write a blog post about "Life is like a box of Crayons" so after lots of other editing etc... I had to do today, here it is night time once again and so we begin with...

Why Life is and can be like a box of crayons...

Have you ever watched a Child with Crayons, truly watched them...  

Ever child is different:

-Some Kids have to keep all of their crayons is a certain order...

-Other kids pour them out all over the floor or table...

-Other kids pour them out and then make different piles

to Categorize the colors...

-Some kids even go so far as to sort the crayons and actually

Choose all of the colors they like and throw the rest out.

-Some kids request a plastic bin to keep all of their crayons

in so they dig in and grab the ones they want.

-Some have to keep the crayons in the box at all times, and just

pull one out one crayon at a time, use it and then put it back in...

-Some kids will color using every single color...

-Some kids will only color with one color...

-Some color in the lines...

-Some color outside the lines...

So....

How does this apply to Life ?

How doesn't it apply to Life, would be my question ?

How we approach Anything - A relationship, a business project 

is unique to how we Process...

Are we Left brained or Right brained ?

Are we Auditory, Visual, Kinesthetic, Audio Digital etc....

Now... Imagine if we STRETCHED Ourselves and made ourselves Choose or Do something differently...

-Practice writing with our other hand...

-Choose to get a bit more organized - linear...

-Choose to not only read that book, however next time, to also listen to the book via Audio.

-We as a culture do NOT use a large portion of our brains...

-As we have gotten older we have become FIXED on our points of view.

Studies have shown that if we STRETCH ourselves we engage and or train, wire if you will different pathways in our brains, therefore gaining access to further creativity and problem solving etc...

I invite everyone to get creative and messy...  To Literally Learn, Play and Grow like when we were a kid... Get Silly, Laugh, Sing, Dance... and YES COLOR...

My invitation or challenge to you would be to do this ONCE as soon as possible by yourself... Then do this Once a week with your kids, friends or Team...

Now I want you to think about after you did this by yourself-

***How did it feel doing that ?

***Where you attempting to clean up the entire time ?

***Did you go to the place of Judgement - and say this is silly

I am not doing this ?

Pain Attention to what came up for you...

My Favorite has been to hold a weekly Meeting - That day is dress casual day and you have a meeting that is with Crayons, Paints, Markers, Silly Scissors, Blackboards etc.. and each week the team picks a project to do it on... I have personally seen some amazing, awesome, brilliant ideas, campaigns, problems solved in some of these Colorful brainstorming mastermind meetings - sessions...

It is amazing what an amazing positive impact this can have.  I have led many of these at corporate trainings.  Yes, you heard me RIGHT... Corporate Trainings...

Here is some of the results and or impact it has had:

-Greater Creativity

-Group Rapport

-Looking forward to the Weekly meetings

-Outside of the box thinking

-Teamwork

-Sharing

-Collaboration

-A more Positive Atmosphere

Another Midnight Production

Until Next Time... Enjoy the Journey

Carly Alyssa Thorne

Authenticity, Integrity, Choose

Who is Your Family ?

Who is Your Family ?

This past November 1st was my birthday, and I have to say

I was beyond amazed, thrilled, Grateful and Thankful for what unfolded that day.

Everyone obviously has an original family, a mother that gave birth to you and a father that helped in the creation of you.  

However, I truly have always Loved the idea of it takes a village to raise a child for various reasons-

***Some people are truly blessed to have a family that is very tight, and they are close to their Mom/Dad/Brother/Sisters

***Some people where raised as Only Children

***Others maybe didn't have it so lucky and were either abandoned, abused etc...

***Others maybe just didn't have a family that was close at all.

So where am I am going with this... Well...

The first thing I would Like to say is a Huge Thank You to everyone that texted me, called, Twitted, and the Hundreds of Facebook Happy Birthday's I got...

Secondly, I really want people to truly appreciate, Love, be in Gratitude and Thanks if they do have a family that is close, never ever take that for granted...

Thirdly, Social Media can be an amazing place to met awesome people that can lead to great friendships in person, business and beyond.  

Realize that it is through a Social Media community mentality that instead of having Love, Inspiration, Creativity, Abundance from one person and or source you now have that from a tribe of people.

Having grown up overseas and traveled extensively and many schools etc... with a family that was NOT close, I always adopted other Moms, Dads, Brothers, Sisters wherever I went...

This particular Year was very insightful for me for various reasons.

Everyone assumes if You are a coach, mentor, etc... that you aren't human...  No one person is perfect 247/365, I am human and do have human emotions and even though one of my daily mantras and or mottos is to NOT take things personally, we all have had our days and or moments when somebody triggers you or hits a button especially if it is someone close to you... And I am no different.

I didn't sleep the Night of Oct. 31, I had a really hard time going to sleep, and kept waking up and I always like to sleep with my Angel Number Book by my bed, to read the message of the time I get waked up etc...  Anyways, I woke up in the wee hours of the morning and flipped my phone over which was on silent to see not only what time it was however; also caught a Glimpse of a Tweet that completely put a smile on my face from somebody that means a lot to me -and what they tweeted even meant more to me...  

I am extremely grateful for that tweet as it helped me let go of something on my mind, and to realize how truly lucky I was to have such amazing friends...

I hope everyone never takes for granted their friends and the power of Social Media and how sometimes that very thing You post on somebodies wall or that inbox, Voicemail and or tweet might totally change somebodies day, as You never know what a person may be going through in that moment, even if it is their birthday... Never presume anything...

Special Thanks to:

My Many Adopted Moms, Dads, Brothers, Sisters, and

The Universe... You are truly appreciated and Loved...

Thanks for being a Part of the World's Co-Creation...

Looking for a Partner for a Radio Show

I am looking for an Energetic, Open Minded, Committed person to do a Regular weekly Radio Show/or Podcast with, would prefer a male so there is a nice M/F energetic balance and points of view...

Someone I can have a Fun, Energetic, Authentic banter with about Open, honest, Deep Conversations about Life, Death, Conscious Business, Abundance, The Mind, Body, Business Spirit Connection, Being Spiritual yet Grounded,  Social Media, Authenticity and more.,.

Would like to eventually turn this into a weekly video talk show...

Title:  Transformative Authentic Conversations with Carly and  Your Name here...

I have had various people approach me that wanted to do one with me, and I have done a few with others here and there, however I am looking for something consistent.  

So, I am now seeking someone that can can and does want to have a weekly conversation for ONE hour.. not in months from now, wants to start something NOW... 

I am open to which platform you like Spreaker, Blog Radio etc...  Even open to the Title... 

To get a sense of my Energy, Voice, and conversation go to
http:// www.CarlyAlyssaThorne.com    
Bio on Who page and there is a Media Page that has some samples.  

If you are interested Please send me a Bio, and Links to find out more about You to:
CarlyAThorne@gmail.com

Stepping beyond the comfort zone...

Most people do  not realize that when we aren't willing to do new things,
eat new things, Learn new things they are actually missing out on some many opportunities of all kinds in all ways.

It is thru the process of Learning, Playing and Growing that new windows, doors-people and opportunities arise.

Eating that new thing activates new senses, feelings, thoughts which then lead to discovering something new within yourself. You like or dislike what you just ate etc...

Everything we do, read activates new information within our beings.
That new information is a gateway to grow embrace or to shrink and be in fear.

Be willing to explore new ideas, points of views...
Be willing to do something you have never done before...
Be willing to do stretch yourself...
Read new things...
Meet new people...

It is this new states of awareness and stretch that usually
the most incredible opportunities arise and happen.

Enjoy the Journey

Another Midnight Production - The Muses of ©Carly Alyssa Thorne

Copyright © Carly Alyssa Thorne  

I Choose Love, What do You Choose ???

Everyday in life we have choices...  

Example: We can be driving and somebody cuts us off, and in that very moment we can choose to get pissed off and let it ruin our day or let it go and move on with our day.   

I finally got clear that when I am driving I like to either listen to audio books where I am engaged in listening and learning something or to listen to music that I Love and I just start singing my heart out...  That way no matter what happens when I am driving, I already am in a good state of happiness and can shift right back into that space if something unpleasant does happen when I am driving...  

At the end of the day, Life is Precious and can be gone in a blink of a second... I used to work at World Trade Center Tower 2 and missed the planes by ONE hour, because a client of mine cancelled our appointment the night before. Normally, I still would have gone in early except that one day I decided oh heck, why not sleep in an extra 30 minutes...  I used to commute from the NJ side to the NY side 4 days a week for work so that extra sleep was something that was much appreciated as those 4 days were 12 hour days.  

In my opinion life is too short to get pissed off at things you sometimes don't have control over.  I attempt to live my Life from a space of Heart centered Compassion and LOVE as much as possible...  

What do YOU Choose ??? 

Thank You ALL for being a Part of the World's Co-Creation, 

Team work is what makes the Dreams Work... 

Enjoy the Journey... 

The Muses of Carly Alyssa Thorne

Carly Alyssa Thorne From 200 lbs to 125 lbs... The Journey of How...

The Story Of Carly Alyssa Thorne and the 

Health, Wellness and Fitness Journey....

I started out in the Health, Wellness and Fitness Field in 1982

Yes this is me, Carly Alyssa Thorne in 1986, Started working out in a

Jack LaLanne Fitness Facility in Yonkers, N.Y.

Yes this is me, Carly Alyssa Thorne in 1998- 200 lbs.

A Very Unhappy, Unhealthy Time in my life...

A story, that I do Share, as I have found it to be a 

Very Powerful Tool, in showing that

NO MATTER what you have been Thru

in LIFE... You ALWAYS have a CHOICE...

In 6 months I was back to a Healthy Positive Solid 125 lbs...

And This is me Now +5 or -5 lbs... since 2000.

Oh, and I just cut about 10 inches of my Hair...

December 2011...

Yes I know... I am Growing it back...

I explain the WHY- the IMPORTANCE of 

my cutting the Hair in my Coaching...

So the Question I am Always Asked and I am sure
You want to know is... THE HOW ???

SOME OF THE KEY TOOLS:

1-Your State of MIND...

I wake up Every Morning and first thing I do, after I have had my early morning bathroom break, is climb right back in bed and listen to a Subliminal Meditation on Love, Positivity, Sharing, Giving, Health, Team, 

Creativity, Co-Creating, Business, Relationships and Abundance

in all areas of my Life...

2-MOVEMENT OF BODY

I then will go for a 30 minute brisk walk and while I am walking I am thinking of what I am intending to Co-Create in my Life for that day...

Later in the day I also work out for another 30 minutes, Sometimes Longer, Sometimes Less- Yoga, Free Weights, Stretching, Water Therapy Training +++ I work out Late afternoon or Late Evening depending on my work schedule.

Being a Self-Employed Consultant, Life Coach and a Producer... Each day is extremely different and has different time demands and schedules, so I have to GO with the Flow... I just make sure NO matter what that I move my body each and every day...

SERIOUSLY, I have goten done with a PRODUCTION at 1 AM, and having been up since 5 AM that morning, and while everybody else has decided to go Party, Go the Bar, or to sleep... I have gone to the GYM..., If No gym was available, or the gym was closed, I would go for a brisk walk,  if it was raining and cold I went up to my Hotel Room and Worked out there...

No Excuses... Moving the body especially when you are under time lines and stress is Sooo Important... Even if I just went to bike for 15 minutes and then did a really good, relaxing, centering stretch... It helps boost Your Immune System, Energy System, and Removes the Stress Hormones floating thru your body...

Also, because I have been working out at home, in Gyms, Dance Studios, 

Yoga Studios, and Dojos, etc... since 1982 I like to shake it up and do something different every day...  

Ultimately you will have to find which Program or ANY PROGRAM that Resonates with YOU... that suits Your Life Style, desired outcomes and Energy Level... I am a firm believer YOU don't need a GYM or a VIDEO to work out or be motivated...  Your imagination, music, your OWN bodyweight can do wonders...  Bottom Line You need to Create what will keep you motivated and work for YOU...  I do STRONGLY advice that EVERYBODY find somebody to teach them proper FORM and Body alignment...

3- HEALTHY FOOD and NUTRITION 

After Every work out I drink a Healthy, No Additive,

Nutritious, Protein rich, Yummy Tasting Shake to fuel and help repair my muscles... NOW that me also STATE I am NOT A firm believer NOR do I endorse replacing MEALS with just a shake. Everybody's body is different and depending on how you are training etc... you may need more calories etc...  Restricting calories is NOT the way to keeping a healthy body and or achieving LONG term outcomes that you can sustain easily...

The Rest of the Day I Eat 3 Medium Sized Meals and 2 snacks that are: 

Clean, Pesticide free, Whole Foods, Alive, I eat 80%Alkaline, 

Low Glycemic Index Foods: Lots of Vegetables, Whole Sprouted Grains, Clean Protein's, Fresh Fruits, Nuts, Seeds, and Clean Non Trans Oils and Fats... and NO I don't feel deprived, hungry etc... and YES Your body does need Good FATS...

Once You have started to Eat this way, make this a LIFESTYLE... your Taste buds shift, and You no longer want or crave the unhealthy processed foods...

AND YES I still can go Out to a restaurant and Eat a Healthy Meal... there are a lot of GREAT restaurants that have many Awesome, YUMMY Dishes on their menus... Nobody said this had to BE HARD and BORING...

I also use a few other Products and Supplements on a DAILY basis see my 

The Products I Use Every Day, and Support 100% Pinterest Board

4- Team, Mentors, Friends, Environment

*Make sure to have a support system in place, find a buddy to do it with you, or make it a family project.

*Find at least TWO people who are totally willing to support you while you are going thru the shift that you can call when you need to.

*Join online support groups, there are so many free support groups for exercise and healthy eating.

***If I ever start to feel myself get into a Funk or Negative Space, I instantly will play music that makes me Happy, Sing, Dance, to Immediately Shift me out of that state... 

KEY: I don't sit and wallow in the funk...

***My Environment, Friends, Team, Co-Workers, I make sure they are Coming from the Same Space and Energy I want Co-Created in my LIFE...

Which for ME the qualities that I Value in Co-Creating in all areas of my Life are:

Faith, Love, Heart Centeredness, Collaboration, Team, Positivity, Health, Giving, Sharing, Co-Creating, Being Grounded, Centered, Calm, Creativity, Playtime, Lots of Energy, Global Consciousness, Empowerment, Inspiration, Education, Self Development, Spirituality and Most of All...

My Chief GOAL in life is to Learn, Play and Grow 

each and Every Day... to Expand my Awareness of my Mind, Body, and Spirit...

BODY MOVEMENT BASICS: 
Honestly a lot of it is common sense seriously...

-Move your body everyday for at least 30 minutes and it is not necessary to go beyond an hour.  Everything in LIFE is a Balance too much to excess it NOT good, and neither is too little.  This usually DOES NOT Apply if you are an athlete or YOUR body - Physique is your commodity, like modeling, being a personal trainer etc... Athletes are training hours and hours a day, and they are also getting massive nutrition and proper training... I have my personal opinions that I will NOT get into here about how some of the training etc... is done to the determent of people's body and how their bodies are burnt out and a mess at a relatively YOUNG age, and that applies to modeling as well, however this article is NOT about that.

-VERY IMPORTANT: any exercise -it is all about quality and form, body alignment... it is NOT about EGO and doing more reps and or weight with bad form and body alignment. Think of it as a dance, a dancer has to hit certain poses and their body is in alignment when doing so, they are also FLUID, not jerky, well okay hip hop or other dance forms might have some jerky movements in there... You get my point.  You want your hips, shoulders, head all facing forward and in alignment when exercising, even when you are walking.

I STRONGLY suggest EVERYONE get a QUALIFIED person to walk them thru some routines where they are educating you on body alignment and form etc...

-Unless you are in a competitive sport or getting PAID to work out, or your body is your physical commodity and the way you make a living, there is NO need to do hours of cardio and gym time.

-Take a quick paced walk, go for a bike ride, whatever rocks your world fitness
wise, just truly commit to doing it for at least 30 minutes at least 5x a week.

-Food intake: again I could write a book on all the different things out there,

Raw, Vegan, Vegetarian, Eats fish and eggs yet no red meat, etc... etc... etc...

We make it Soooo Complicated, it truly doesn't have to be. The more complicated you make it the less chances you have of having a successful  outcome that you will be happy with and can sustain.

YOUR KITCHEN AND FOOD:

Before you do start anything it is a must that you go thru your kitchen and give away all of the food that is truly not good for you.  All the fake, processed, fatty, sweets etc...  there is NO way that you are going to follow thru on eating healthy if there is crap food in the house even if it is other family members food or house mates food... You are going to have to have the whole household's support and involvement...

So- depending on your living environment, if they are NOT willing to participate or help, sometimes it might mean making choices.  You might want to live with people that do care about what they eat etc.... It might mean you being the parent and adult and choosing to also get your kids and partner eating healthy.

ALL FOOD, Preferably: No pesticides, Organic if possible and NO Additives.

Definitely NO:
Fast food places, white flour, sugar, corn syrup, processed, pre- packaged foods, TV dinners, etc...etc...etc...  Come on folks we all know that fake sugars, all of the additives, candy, and all of the crap food is NOT good for us, so WHY eat it.

If you eat Whole Grain, Alive Food, you will have a ton of more energy and not crave the crap food.

Sugar is addictive and once you start eating that piece of cake it sends a signal to your brain with endorphins and you start craving more sweets. Trust me when you start to eat cleaner and cleaner your taste buds truly do shift. And... Nobody said your food has to taste bland.  There are so many amazing seasonings cumin, dill, pepper, oregano, parsley, garlic etc... etc... etc....

Think about this, if you had a friend that was an alcoholic you wouldn't hand that person a beer would you ?  So knowing that sugar is addictive and truly an out of control addiction for many, why would you knowingly give yourself let alone a person with eating issues something that was 100% Crap sugar like a processed artificial cookie and or piece of cake ?

HONOR and LOVE your body it is the ONLY one you have for this Lifetime if you believe in multiple lifes, like I do.

MORE BASICS:
*First basic math you must expend more energy or calories if you will, than you are eating... So honestly we all have our personal dogma when it comes to food, so again here are some basics:

*Eat 5-6 meals a day and don't skip to keep your metabolism active, when you skip meals your body freaks out and goes back to the OLD AGE times and stores your next meal because it doesn't know when you might or might not feed it so to speak, there is more to this scientifically involving sugars dropping and then when you finally eat blood sugar levels going up way too fast  etc... etc... etc... however again... I don't want to make this complicated... Simple is KEY....

In the morning when you get up or the night before pack some snacks in baggies to make things easier. I will get into the Glycemic Index and sugar levels a bit below.

Your 5- 6 meals:
*Make sure to have 3 well balanced meals and 2-3 small snacks.
What do I mean by snacks: one apple, 1 large carrot cut up or 6-8 mini carrots with almond butter or peanut butter, 2 Large stalks of celery with almond butter or peanut butter, 1/4 raw almonds.  Almond butter is healthier for you because it is alkaline. 

Meals depending on your dietary preference:
Again basic common sense: Eat whole, alive, whole grains foods, tons of vegetables, and some fruit and if you eat meat, make it LEAN meats...
And here is ANOTHER TIP... Eat meats and or foods that Don't have the Growth hormones and or antibiotics etc in them... WHY... Believe it or not all of those hormones makes your body STORE more fat and creates other issues...

Enough food that you feel satisfied, not Stuffed, bloated...

SOME BASIC DIGESTION TIPS:
*Do not drink while you are actively eating, drink before a meal or after.
WHY ? because our body is a LAB so to speak and your mouth has natural digestive enzymes that when we CHEW help break down the food to make it is easier to digest. When we drink while we eat, we dilute those enzymes.

*It is best to eat FRUIT by itself, as when you mix it with other foods it tends to get fermented and sit in your belly.  You can eat Fruit it will be totally digested within 2 hours.  Also the most beneficial time for Fruit is mornings.

WATER first thing in the morning with lemon juice helps get your organs hydrated and jump started for the day and... Lemons are alkalizing to your system. Which I will get into that a bit later too.  Lemons act as a blood sugar stabilizer and helps boost your metabolism and aids in digestion.  Great for your skin and lemons do contain some calcium.

Like I said earlier our bodies are like one big LAB, or chemistry set and there are massive studies out there that state that disease or another term used is our body is out of harmony, when our food intake is primarily acidic. Ideally you want to eat 80% Alkaline 20% Acidic.  Again... this is a topic of great discussion and another book so for now here is a basic chart and below the chart is a great resource link to dive more into it.

MORE ON ALKALINE VERSUS ACIDIC

NOW ONTO BIGGEST impact of Health and Wellness and the prevention of Insulin resistance or Pre-Diabetes, the Glycemic Index.

Bottom line the white processed foods, NON whole foods items and sweets etc are much highly on the Glycemic index and are also higher on the acidic side, not an accident as they are interrelated.

Great Resource with a Printable PDF all about the Glycemic Index

Nutrition and glycemic-index

So I will end here for now for more in depth education on Fitness, Wellness, Eating and detailed programs being tailored specifically to your body type - which is another WHOLE topic and book LOL... etc... you can email tlccoaching@gmail.com and put in subject heading Wellness and Fitness.

LIABILITY DISCLOSURE:

All the links, resources and information on this Blog, My FB Page, and or Websites are from my Personal Experience, Research and my Personal Opinion.  In the end, You decide what resonates for you.

I am not a licensed M.D., or Psychologist . I am a Transformationalist Life Coach, Interfaith Minister, & Personal Business Consultant and have studied Massively in all areas of the Mind, Body, and Spirit - Everything from Philosophy, Psychology, Theology, Nutrition, Overall Wellness, Fitness, Metaphysics etc... and have numerous Certifications to back that up along with my LIFE experience in the field since 1982 when I started working in the Medical Field that evolved into the Business, Metaphysical, Healing, and Wellness field.

All advice and or exercises I have provided in this Blog, My FB Page, and or Websites I have actually done, lived and still live and I have taught to hundreds of Private clients.

I am not being paid to endorse anyone’s links, books, advice, or products.

All of the resources listed, I have Read, Studied, and Used First on myself and then with clients. I am providing them here for Your Exploration and Growth of Mind, Body and Spirit, and Ultimately it is up to you to CHOOSE what best suits you.

Be sure to consult with your OWN Physician before starting any Exercise or Nutrition program.  Carly Alyssa Thorne

*Transformations Life Center

*Transformations Life Coaching

*Transformations Life Productions

Copyright ©2007 Carly Alyssa Thorne

The Boundless Majestic Mountains and Gratitude

When You Look at This Picture, What do You See ???

When You Look at those Mountains, What to You Feel ???

When I wake up and See those Boundless Majestic Mountains, I am Immediately 

Immersed in the Energetic Liquid Field of Pure Potential, Awe and Gratitude. 

Life is an Amazing Oasis of Energetic Muse in Which we were born from a 

Cocoon... Life then gives us the Choice to be with and become One 

with Creative Conscious Co-Creation™ to Learn, Play, and Grow™ 

from which Manifests Everything Within us and Around Us... 

The Life we have created for ourselves... The Journey from Cocoon to Flight™ 

is beyond Comprehension and Everyday, 

I am just Deeply Thankful and Grateful to be within it....

©Cocoon To Flight Publishing

The Muses of ©Carly Alyssa Thorne

Do You Let Things Take You Out...

Do YOU Let things Take YOU out ???

Take the Position of Laughter ???

Find HUMOR in everything ???

Laughing will completely change Your Attitude...

And ATTITUDE is KING..

Your Attitude Creates Your Reality...

Team work is what Makes the Dreams Work, Enjoy the Journey...

 ~ ♥ ~  

Carly Alyssa Thorne

Song by Scott Kalenchstein Grace

Scott Songs

Being in the State of Presence

Are You Awake ??? Aware ??? Centered ???

Divine ??? Focused ??? In Gratitude ??? 

Practice Namaste ??? In Oneness ??? In Peace ???

Respectful ??? 

These are all Traits of Empowering
Leaders that help change the World...

What Do You Think About Most of the 

Time is what You Create in Your Life....

Make these Your Daily Thoughts & Actions:

Be Awake, Aware, Centered, Divine, Focused,

In Gratitude, Practice Namaste, In Oneness,

In Peace, and Respectful... 

Team work is what Makes the Dreams Work, Enjoy the Journey...
~ ♥ ~

Carly Alyssa Thorne

(¯`♥´¯) .♥.•*¨`*♬• ~ ♥♥♥ ~ ॐ

´*.¸.•´♥ — 

Quote in Post and Image © Carly Alyssa Thorne

Image of ©Damon Divine Hoffman

I Totally Support this Film, as I believe in the Mind, Body, Spirit/Soul Connection and I DO BELIEVE You/We/I are the Cure...

Amazing Film By David Sharps-"The Cure Is" You are the Cure...

Team work is what Makes the Dreams Work, Enjoy the Journey...
~ ♥ ~  Carly Alyssa Thorne

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The Art of Communication, What are You Saying ?

The Art of Communication, What are You Saying ?

Verbal Communication- The Deal

This particular article on communication is focused on relationships... However, most of the questions and techniques also apply to friendships and business deals...

In all Business there is a deal that is struck between two parties, the same thing must apply in any relationship if you expect it to be one of substance and longevity.

How does that work ? Communication is KING.  One must be willing to be brutally honest about who they are and what they are willing to Contribute, Do, Be, etc…  I would like to add to that, that using Compassionate, Passionate Communications is key.  Ask as many questions as need be to arrive at a Win-Win situation where both parties needs are being met with optimum outcomes that are easy to achieve. You don’t want things to be Difficult-as all Relationships, Friendships, and Business are to be ENJOYED, otherwise what is the point.

Let me clarify WIN - WIN... A true win-win is when both parties are GIVING massive VALUE to one another because they CHOOSE to and for no other reason - Meaning there isn't the I did this for you, therefore, I expect this from you in return. You are either Willing to be completely in or not... Ultimately when we are GIVING freely to others willingly, the outcomes usually are that you are receiving as well; that just tends to be the way it is, that is if You are OPEN to receiving.  That is a whole other subject. 

Be sure to be extremely interested about your Partners, needs, wants, and goals and; be CRYSTAL clear what both of your INTENTIONS are. I don’t like to use the word expectations because that usually is a set up for failure, so I always use the word Intentions instead; and it is the INTENTIONS of both parties that will either make or break any Relationship, Personal or Business. 

The Ultimate setting for a Powerful, Sustainable, Joyful, Passionate Relationship is to have  a Values and Goals alignment between two parties, where it is a Big Win-Win about the most commons things in any partnership: Values, Overall Outcomes wanted, Dreams, Interests, Friendships, Money, Sex, Work, How many Children, How will we raise our children, as all of these things are Vital to any successful relationship. FRIENDSHIP between the two parties is essential, it is the foundation of trust and is the pivotal building block to the beginning of anything and everything else.

Communication also involves being versed in many things, educating yourself about what is going on Politically, Staying current on current events,  staying in the know about your partners business, on things You and Your partner enjoy Hobby wise and more. Being SELF EDUCATED is as important as having a College degree. College degrees are great, and I know a lot of famous people that never went to college or even folks that dropped out of college like Bill Gates did. As long as you are continually SELF- educating yourself that is all that matters. Our brains are a beautiful thing, and a shame to waste, nourish it with things you are passionate about, learn about different cultures, Read books, Magazines, take self-development courses, Travel, learn a second language, become as diversified as you can.  Diversity is the cornerstone to great Communication, as well as being able to Ebb and Flow in any given environment or situation.

The art of negotiation or another way to put is, persuasion; is another important skill to Master. Do you know how to negotiate – persuade ? In life you are going to be in situations where you are going to have to negotiate, you might as well learn how do it effectively and where you are creating Win-Win situations. I believe in creating Win-Win situations in all business whether it be personal, relationships, financial or other, both parties come out happy and usually the deal is a lot sweeter, Productive and Abundant all around.  Again, I will say that creating a Win-Win does not mean I did this for You therefore You owe me this. When we offer or give to another or make a deal it has to be an authentic Give- meaning you are choosing to do it because you want to and for no other reason and you have no expectation of the return.  This is KEY...  You will find that in all deals, when are doing what You love and for no other reason your deal making will be a lot more effortless and rewarding. 

Now, there is a saying that one should never expect anything lest you be disappointed, that is a true statement in my opinion. First off, I don’t personally like the word “Should” I should have done this or that, and I never go into anything expecting anything because we are all beings of free will and Choice and bottom line, you can lead a person to water, however; you can’t make them drink it.  Having an in depth conversation with someone you care about, where there is Chemistry, Symmetry, and a Connection and you Align on Dreams, Intentions, Outcomes and Passions, it makes for a much more Fun, solid Foundation from which to build on.  You have to have a solid Foundation, Core and Friendship in which to build from, asking these questions and taking ACTION steps from all the questions below will help you do that.

A Huge factor in The Art of Communication is FEEDBACK...  It is through Feedback that we can Choose to Learn, Play and Grow or not... Don't be afraid to give someone feedback, just remember to Always Speak from Your HEART, Speak Freely, However; Be Authentic, Honest, Compassionate, Passionate, Have a Steady Relaxed tone, Relaxed body language, and in a way that it can be HEARD... One of my favorite phrases is Compassionate Passionate Communications, meaning when talking to someone come from you Heart speak passionately and have compassion. 

Whether you know it or not, everything you Say is USUALLY something somebody else has been WAITING to Hear, We are All AMAZING Teachers and Healers for one another...  

Personally, I will always ask the person if they are OPEN to feedback and I watch their body language, as I ask the question. In doing so, the Feedback will be able to be Heard, Processed, Absorbed and then Integrated easier, than just starting a conversation with feedback and then the person's walls might start to come up because they are feeling blindsided and then they start to get defensive. 

Questions to ask yourself  and Partner - What are your Intentions:

You can Alter these questions for Business and or Friendship I have focused on Relationships here in the questions.

*Joint account for household purposes

*Make sure to always have one account in your name to establish credit and independence.

*What is expected of you financially ?

*What is expected of your partner financially ?

*What are your common outcomes financially ?

*You really need to have a FRANK conversation about sex as sex is different for everyone.

*Sex how often ?

*What type of sex how often ?

*What is Great sex for you, for him, positions etc.. ?

*What turns each of you on ?   Where ?

*Talk about each other’s fantasies.

*What are the DEAL breakers, meaning if you do this I AM DONE or if you do this I am willing to talk about it etc…

*Am I expected to work ?

*Can I be a stay at home mom ?

*Can I work from home ?

*Can You work with Your Partner on a business ?

*Are you expected to support partner ?

*Are you expecting partner to support you ?

*Do you want children ?

*How many ?

*Do you want to adopt ?

*Have your own and adopt ?

*Align on Child rearing methods.

*Do not wait till you have children to discuss how you would raise them, that is a disaster waiting to happen.

*What Religion if any are we going to raise them with ?

*Do you keep yourself educated thru self- study, self development courses, reading ?

*Do you know the art of negotiation ?

*Are you up to date on current events ?

*Do you know your partners likes and dislkes ?

*Do you know each others Passions, Dreams ?

*What do you and your partner like to do Hobby wise ?

The questions are Endless- get CREATIVE, and jot down some of your own questions you may have.

Questions to ask yourself about Your Communication Skills:

*When responding are you talking to fast ?  Slow ?

*Are you an interesting conversationalist ?

*Are you being articulate ?

*Are you being understood ?

*Position yourself at an angle to the person when talking to establish a better rapport, it sets them at ease, then squaring off with them.

*Is your body language Relaxed ?

*How do you handle Feeback ?

*How do you give Feedback ?

*Are you being Authentic- Yourself ?

Below are some fun exercises to Learn, Play and Grow with...

EXCERISES:

*Write up for yourself what are your intentions in being in the relationship with your partner.

*Pick from the questions above which ones are most important to you, and then enter into a discussion where you both come to terms on said arrangement and what your Intentions are towards each other and the common outcome.

*Sit in chairs opposite from each other and while looking into each others eyes, you are going to say only Positive, Loving Things to your partner about how you feel and Appreciate them, do this for 1 minute. The partner who is RECEIVING is not to say anything the entire time, they are just to be Listening and in Receive Mode. The objective here is for each partner to be able to give and receive without any judgement. Do this 3x each.

By the way this is an awesome exercise for Co-workers as well.

The Art of Communication is a book in of itself so I will leave you with the above for now... And this is an abbreviated article from a course I teach on "The Art of the Multi-Sensory Journey" and part of a book - handbook - DVD- and Audio I am in the middle of writing and working on.

The other Articles are: 

"The Art of Listening, What are You Hearing ?"

"The Art of Touch, What are You Feeling ?"

"The Art of Seeing, What are You Seeing ?"

If you want to be put on the list for taking the course, please email contact info to: tlccoaching@gmail.com and indicate in subject heading: Want to know more about "The Art of the Multi-Sensory Journey"

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